We like to think of inner children as sweet, hurt, fragile beings.
But what about the inner child who’s angry?
Who yells.
Who slams doors.
Who pushes people away and then cries about being alone?

That child lives in many of us—
unseen, unacknowledged, unintegrated.

She learned early that her needs weren’t safe to express.
That if she screamed, no one would listen.
Or worse—they’d punish her for it.

So she buried it.
Until it began to leak—through passive aggression, rage spirals, shutdowns, and guilt.

Adult Anger is Often Inner Child Anger in Disguise

Anger isn’t bad.
It’s communication from your nervous system.
It says: I feel unsafe. I feel unseen. I feel violated.

But when it’s suppressed long enough, it doesn’t come out clean.
It comes out like wildfire—burning things you never meant to scorch.

A Sacred Shift

1. Witness the inner child before she explodes.
Notice the tight chest, the jaw tension, the urge to lash out.
Ask gently: What do you need, little one? What are you afraid of?

2. Let her write it out uncensored.
Let her rage on the page. Let her say what she couldn’t say then.
Let her be loud. Angry. Messy.
Then hold her after. Say: I see you. You’re allowed to feel this.

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Working with the shadow inner child is one of the most sacred acts of self-love.

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