Retroactive Jealousy Quiz Welcome to your Retroactive Jealousy Quiz Quiz Many of us struggle with retroactive jealousy in relationships. Take the quiz below to find out if this emotion is interfering with your sense of self-worth and your relationship, or is it in check. Just answer 12 quick Questions to assess your current level of self-esteem and self-confidence. It takes no more than 4 minutes. After that, leave your email and receive your results immediately with some solutions! Deal? Let's start! 1. Do you care about how many sexual partners your partner has had? No I don’t care, that is their life/past/business, not mine Sort of? There’s an “acceptable” number to me and they shouldn’t go beyond that Yes. I actually feel really upset knowing that they had sex with others before and I keep thinking about it 2. Do you quiz your partner about their exes and/or sexual history Not at all. Their past and who they were with/did what with isn’t my concern Sort of. I try to act cool about it and don’t. But my curiosity won’t stop and it eats into me until I ask.. and feel bad after Yes. Whenever I think of it, I get so anxious I need to know all the details and will ask til I’m satisfied though I feel like dying inside the whole time 3. Do you always check your partner’s texts, social media, emails etc to analyse their past? Often actually. I look through all their emails, texts, diary entries.. I feel guilty but can’t stop myself I’ve dipped in occasionally when I feel like my anxiety gets the better of me and I need to know more Absolutely not. That’s an invasion of privacy 4. Do you feel anxious, angry, upset or jealous when your partner brings up his/her past lover(s) in a conversation? I don’t really like it and don’t feel particularly good when it happens. But it doesn’t bother me much overall I don’t really mind hearing about it actually, these are just stories and memories at this point Yes, I get a sick, horrible feeling in the pit of my stomach/gut/heart and it incapacitates me completely. I feel devastated 5. Do you constantly play “mini movies” of your partner and their ex going through lives happily/ being intimate/ having sex/ sharing special moments? Yes, constantly. I can’t stop! Erm.. no? I have better things to do Yes, occasionally, but they are kinda like 5 second reels and I forget about them after 6. How often do you think about your partner’s past relationships or sex life? All the time. I can’t stop it. The thoughts just pop into my head and it is out of my control Only if it comes up in conversation, and the thoughts are very brief It pops into my brain once in awhile…I have to admit it’s more than I’d like 7. How bothered are you that your partner is still following their exes on social media? Whenever I see their exes on their friends list, I feel really uneasy and anxious Super bothered and it takes alot of effort to tell him it bothers me and it sometimes leads to fights I don’t care much about my partner’s social media activity. They can follow anyone but they are with me 8. Do you worry that your partner may cheat on you/doesn’t see relationships and/or sex the same way as you because of their “colourful” past? Yup, I’m always suspicious and mistrustful of them and feel we are incompatible Not at all, they are a different person then and now I do sometimes and get anxious about it and feel doubtful about our relationship 9. Do you worry that your partner’s ex(es) were “better” than you? (in looks, intellect, body, etc) I do feel that I lack in some ways and feel down about it, but comfort myself by telling myself I’m in my partner’s life now, not the e Yes all the time (and it doesn’t help that they look better) No I don’t. Yes, they may be better than me in some areas but if the exes were that amazing, they wouldn’t be an ex 10. How often do you get into fights with your partner about their past? Not at all. It’s a bit weird to fight about someone/something that no longer exists Always. I feel crazy and like I’m pushing them away but I can’t help it Occasionally. Something else happens and it triggers thoughts about their past 11. Do you suspect that your partner still has secret feelings for their ex partner(s)? Not at all. I’m amazing and they are with me now I don’t really know… but I really hope not I suspect that they do still harbour feelings… and it makes me so upset thinking about it 12. Do you feel like your partner had “amazing life experiences” in the past that you haven’t? Yes, it drives me crazy if I think about it, so…I try to block it out usually Yes, it makes me so mad, sad and jealous No. The best years of my partner’s life are with me, right here and now Thanks for taking the Retroactive Jealousy Quiz! Your results and some tips are on the next page! Name Email Time's up Related
