The first dilemma we all grapple with: Stay or leave?
If you are currently in a horrible position at work due to a change in culture, leadership, people or the workload; and it’s taking a huge toll on your health and mental well-being, then, it might be time to leave.
But the job search takes awhile so what do you do in the meantime?
In this post, I outline some tips I learnt from working in, tolerating and eventually leaving a toxic work culture.
(more…)Since the beginning of this year, I have been doing several things that are pretty new to me and have required me to step out of my comfort zone.
My experiences have taught me that you should never let your inner critic overpower you and convince you that all your efforts amount to nothing.
Read on to find out how I chose to tune out my inner critic and listen more to my inner voice and how that has changed my life for the better.
(more…)Plenty of us have dated or been in relationships where there were red (and amber) flags everywhere but we still persisted and stayed in those relationships.
To our detriment.
In this post, I detail 15 red flags that came up for me in some of the more serious relationships I’ve had. Some of them aren’t as harmless if they occur on their own. But when combined with others can give rise to a miserable experience.
Read on to find out what those 15 are.
(more…)I hurried towards the cafe, slightly out of breath, scanning the small cosy premises for a guy. The guy I was supposed to be meeting after we swiped right on each other on a dating app a couple of days ago.
He came across funny, well-spoken and we seemed to connect. Traits that I could not see in the dude sipping his latte across from me. This was the same person from the app? Gone was the humour and in place was a derisive, condescending demeanor.
He didn’t look like his photos either (a huge problem in the online dating world). I sighed inwardly and started thinking of excuses to bail.
(more…)Have you been blogging and running your business for years but don’t seem to be getting anywhere?
Are you doing things that you really want to or are you following what other people tell you to do?
It might be time to stop listening to others and let your intuition guide you in your business. Read on!
(more…)Intro: Please, if you need to be happy, then just be happy. You can do all you want…all the small little list of things…clean your shoes or your room…If you not happy, you just not happy…She might have found her happiness by just “being” instead of thinking too much about it.
Constantly searching and doing you aren’t being. You aren’t noticing.
Have considered going on a long trip to find yourself?
You aren’t alone.
It seems like THE thing to do for people who are experiencing any sort of crisis or at a cross-roads in their lives.
But what does it really mean to find yourself? And do people ever really find themselves on a trip? This post explores these questions in detail.
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“Gosh, you have majorly let yourself go, you used to look so slim and pretty, whatever happened?!”
Do you think that was a normal comment or a put-down?
If you went with put-down, you are right! And if you were confused, that’s normal too.
Lots of put-downs sound very innocuous at first, but are actually disguised insults.
In this post, we explore what putdowns are and how to deal with them in a confident, assertive manner.
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For as long as I could remember, right up til my mid-20s, I always struggled with low self-esteem and a poor self-image.
I carried around feelings of low self-worth and inadequacy and spent a crap-ton of time feeling like I could never achieve what I wanted to.
I realised that – low self-esteem is not simply a feeling, it’s a culmination of patterns, behaviours, beliefs, expectations, habits and so much more.
So let’s dive into some of the common signs of low self-esteem, combining my own experiences with research.
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Just why do so many adults walk around with low self-esteem? It’s a question I’ve asked myself for a very long time.
Just take a look at babies, or small kids. You never hear them go like, gosh my legs are so fat, I can’t be seen outside. This stroller is hideous! I don’t wanna go around in it.
But then slowly as you get older, you start to absorb the things you see and hear in your environment. From your parents, relatives, teachers, playmates at school, TV ads, magazines, the list goes on.
And these days, things are made worse with social media. With our access to so much of information – good and bad – it can be so easy to internalise these messages and it can all do a number on our self-esteem.
In this post, we will examine some of the factors that might have contributed to you having a dent in your self-esteem. Let’s go!
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