About Me

Hey you. Welcome!

Hi I’m Sonia Alonso, and I empower driven, growth-oriented individuals to heal deep-seated relational and emotional wounds, step into their personal power and follow their dreams boldly. If you’re ready to transform your life, I’m here to guide you every step of the way.

Do any of these resonate with you?

• You find yourself caught in cycles of romantic obsession, drawn to people you barely know, or even celebrities, and can’t seem to untangle yourself from these emotional entanglements.
• You struggle with love, dating, and relationships, often finding yourself with partners who don’t truly love, respect, or care for you.
• You feel trapped by productivity, hustle, beauty, and self-care cultures that dictate how you should live, but deep down, it never feels right, and breaking free seems impossible.
• You wrestle with self-visibility and self-worth, unsure of what self-compassion, self-confidence, or self-love even looks like, and it’s impacting every area of your life.

If any of this sounds familiar, you’re in the right place.

I’ve spent years coaching individuals just like you, helping them break free from unhealthy patterns, navigate the complexities of love and life, and embrace their true selves. My work dives deep into romantic obsession, dating, friendships, and the struggle to live authentically amidst cultural pressures.

This blog is not just a collection of thoughts and life lessons; it’s a space where you’ll find inspiration and actionable guidance for your healing journey. Whether you’re seeking to heal from past wounds, break free from limiting beliefs, or discover your life’s purpose, you’ll find valuable resources here.

Ready to take the next step?
Below, you’ll find a curated list of articles to support you on your journey. And if you need personalized help to navigate the tricky waters of love and life, I’m here to help. My coaching sessions are now open and available at $55 per session. Get in touch here [DM me on Instagram] to start your transformation.

Limerence and romantic obsession

• [Awareness] What is romantic obsession and why does it happen?
• My limerence story and how I broke free
• How habits, neurocognition and dopamine exacerbate limerence and obsession
• How your imagination and fantasy hold you in limerence and obsession
• Limerence is a sign you are disconnected from yourself and a fulfilling life
• Limerence, romantic obsession and childhood attachment styles
• [Recovery] 5 Big Signs limerence and romantic obsession is ending
• [Recover] Turning the attention from them to you
• [Recover] Abstaining vs Moderating: the 2 habit techniques to get rid of limerence
• [Recover] How to cure limerence and romantic obsession (2 sets of strategies)

Love and Dating

• [Awareness] 13 Red flags of online dating
• [Awareness] 3 types of men that you need to be aware of when dating?
• [Awareness] Dating successfully means doing these 3 things – red flags, your values/boundaries and staying grounded
• [Awareness] What does it mean to stay grounded in dating and relationships?
• [Recovery] Stop saying yes to unavailable, ambivalent men and start saying yes to devotion and exuberance
• [Recovery] Start getting into the habit of choosing partners who don’t make you feel like you are losing

Life Purpose

• [Awareness] A life of purpose starts with following your nudges
• Giving yourself the permission to be who you want to be
• [Recovery] How to re-write the stories you’ve told yourself and change your whole life
• Do things because you want to and not because you think you should or are told to
• Drift: Stop drifting around in life and start actively forging a meaningful future

Breaking Free of Societal Expectations

• [Awareness] How various societal expectations hold you back from truly leading life
• [Awareness] Digital detox and how social media is harming our minds and our lives
• Beauty culture and how it exacerbates and feeds off our low self-esteem
• The toxicity of hustle and productivity culture & How it leads to self-abandonment
• Staying sane in a materialistic, capitalistic, consumerist society
• How the obedience culture has moulded us all into a bunch of people pleasers
• How the rise of self-care and well-being culture is ironically, the anti-thesis of self-care
• Why the efficiency and maximum optimisation of your life is the enemy of self-care and compassion.

Healing Childhood Wounds & Reparenting the Inner Child

• [Awareness] My story and why healing childhood wounds are so important
• [Recovery] How to emotionally regulate and self-sooth (interoception)