February was an incredibly long month with so many things happening, lots of ups and downs. And lots of new discoveries about myself and about life as well. Here are some of my reflections, enjoy!
Every bit of success begins with small incremental steps
When I first started on my exercise routine, I never thought I’d be able to see it through. But a few months on and I’ve developed a very nice exercise momentum. I don’t stick to it religiously but I do try to keep to it most of the time. So far, I’ve been doing HIIT thrice a week, brisk walking thrice a week. And I have to say I feel really fit and healthy. The pounds are also slowly coming off.
With brisk walking, I initially only did it once a week for 30 minutes and slowly increased it to twice a week, and gradually from 30 to 45 minutes too. I noticed too that over time, my stamina increased and I was able to do more rounds.
Also, I’ve worked out a sort of way around incorporating more exercise into your life:
- Design your environment. Make it easy for you to access your exercise gear
- Have a trigger. The trigger is the cue for you to step out and exercise
- Keep up the momentum. Schedule it in to cut out on procrastination
- Start incredibly small and build on that continuously
- Reward yourself
- Take breaks
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Doing business is a series of experiments (and failures)
Many people will tell you how it’s so easy to build a six figure business or tell you how easy it is to get from thinking about their business to setting it up and getting clients. Let me tell you this – none of them are telling you the whole truth.
The fact of the matter is that, business, just like many other things in life isn’t something where you hit the jackpot the first time. Many times you have to repeat things, redo them, take 2 steps forward 3 steps back, experiment the hell out of everything without really knowing whether it will succeed.
Well, one day you will, but it does take time and work. This is something that I feel doesn’t get acknowledged as much in business circles. It creates this illusion that success is achieved very quickly and easily and sets so many business-owners to be up for failure, disappointment and disillusion. Also, it creates much impatience and results in people throwing in the towel way before anything has happened.
So, if you are struggling a little in your business, it’s NORMAL. It takes alot of trial and error to create and sustain a business, so don’t give up and keep going.
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A takeaway from Lauren Bacall’s Autobiography
Keep showing up for your dream no matter what. Even if you aren’t quite sure if this is leading you where you want to be, as long as the energy feels right and you are enjoying yourself, just show up. Showing up leads to doors opening and attracts luck as well.
You don’t have to know what is 10 steps ahead, all you need to know is where you are now and what step you are taking next. And when opportunities happen, embrace them. Fear and anxiety may come up, but you can still feel the fear and carry on.
My #1 Takeaway from Can’t Hurt Me by David Goggins
Push yourself beyond your limits. Most of us are not really living up to our potential. Whatever you are doing, try pushing yourself beyond what you are now capable of. Even if it’s just 3 or 5% more, just try. See where it leads you. This is how we start to form new goals and get closer to our dreams. It’s also how we start to beat our fears. With each step forward, we grow with confidence.
Having a structure vs Going with the Flow
As children and students, we all led very structured lives. And it was easy to! All of our time was organised around things like school timetables – externally driven and “imposed” on us by others. So it can be quite a bit of a struggle when we come into adulthood and realise how much time we have on hands and…that we don’t know what to do with all of it!
Structure can feel limiting, so it is not surprising that many of us want to do things at our own time and pace once we are able to. In recent years, there has been a “movement” if you will in spiritual circles, in recent years of eschewing structure and “going with the flow”.
I have to say that while that suits certain people, it certainly does not suit me.
And if you are someone who struggles to get things done, are indecisive and unsure of what you have to do next, “going with the flow” just compounds the problem.
“Going with the flow” proponents say it’s better to plan your day according to your emotions and intuition. Whenever I did though, I ended up doing nothing haha. Because my feelings just told me to relax and take it easy.
So I’m back to trying to inject more structure and predictability into my life. As someone who desperately needs to get alot of things done and who is prone to procrastinating and being indecisive about my next step, structuring my days and writing everything down every single thing I need to get done.
It’s all about what suits your personality and sometimes it’s really down to the really “unsexy” methods like scheduling stuff and writing everything down.
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Life is all about balance
When I started my side business, that was all I worked on everyday after my day-job ended. I was always on my computer planning, writing, designing stuff – at the expense of everything else, of LIFE. I realise I was neglecting my social life, I was neglecting household chores (or found them to be a tiresome “interruption” to what I was trying to do). I was also not connecting to myself spiritually, was skipping out on my hobbies and reading.
Anytime I had to tend to something that wasn’t related to my side hustle, I felt immense annoyance and guilt. Overtime, I was doing and doing so much and neglecting so many other equally important things in life. So moving forward, I’ve committed to seeking more balance in my life and doing much more than just focus on my side hustle.