There is a woman inside you who knows who she is.
She doesn’t overexplain.
She doesn’t chase.
She doesn’t shrink herself to be chosen.
She chooses herself—again and again.
But maybe you’ve lost touch with her.
Maybe you’ve been shape-shifting for years—becoming what others needed, abandoning what you wanted.
Now, you feel like a stranger to yourself.
This is what happens when your sense of Self gets fragmented.
When your self-worth depends on who’s approving of you.
When your value is measured by how loved or needed you are.
But hear this:
Your worth is not up for negotiation.
It is not earned through perfection.
It is not taken away when someone leaves.
How would you rate your own self-esteem? Find out in the quiz below!
What It Looks Like to Have a Strong Sense of Self
- You speak your truth without fearing rejection. You are not concerned about what people think, and even if they disagree, it does not bother you.
- You trust your instincts even when others disagree. You could have the entire society against you, but you know what you know. Your intuition is loud.
- You walk away from people who drain your spirit. You have strong boundaries and you are able to pinpoint exactly how someone or some situation makes your body feel.
- You feel safe in your own company. You LOVE being by yourself and enjoy your own company. You are self-assured and comfortable in your own skin. Radiant. Magnetic. Even when you move alone.
- You know that love is a bonus, not a lifeline. You don’t chase it down either or look for it in all the wrong places, you let it come to you. And when someone feels off, doesn’t align with your sovereign self, you know it and you cut ties immediately. Men who aren’t aligned will never go the mile with you.
How to Begin Rebuilding
Create a daily ritual of self-return.
Each morning, put one hand over your heart and ask:
What is true for me today? What do I need right now?
Let that truth guide your decisions—before you check your phone, before you pour into others, before you perform.
Self-worth isn’t built by achieving more.
It’s built by remembering who you were before the world told you to be smaller.
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