“Gosh, you have majorly let yourself go, you used to look so slim and pretty, whatever happened?!”
Do you think that was a normal comment or a put-down?
If you went with put-down, you are right! And if you were confused, that’s normal too.
Lots of put-downs sound very innocuous at first, but are actually disguised insults.
In this post, we explore what putdowns are and how to deal with them in a confident, assertive manner.
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For as long as I could remember, right up til my mid-20s, I always struggled with low self-esteem and a poor self-image.
I carried around feelings of low self-worth and inadequacy and spent a crap-ton of time feeling like I could never achieve what I wanted to.
I realised that – low self-esteem is not simply a feeling, it’s a culmination of patterns, behaviours, beliefs, expectations, habits and so much more.
So let’s dive into some of the common signs of low self-esteem, combining my own experiences with research.
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Just why do so many adults walk around with low self-esteem? It’s a question I’ve asked myself for a very long time.
Just take a look at babies, or small kids. You never hear them go like, gosh my legs are so fat, I can’t be seen outside. This stroller is hideous! I don’t wanna go around in it.
But then slowly as you get older, you start to absorb the things you see and hear in your environment. From your parents, relatives, teachers, playmates at school, TV ads, magazines, the list goes on.
And these days, things are made worse with social media. With our access to so much of information – good and bad – it can be so easy to internalise these messages and it can all do a number on our self-esteem.
In this post, we will examine some of the factors that might have contributed to you having a dent in your self-esteem. Let’s go!
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