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How do you spend your time each day? If you were like most people, it’d most likely be just devoted to work and then family, with little free time left. And what do we do in that free time? Interestingly – or maybe not – most people I speak to fritter it away.
Doing what? Watching Netflix, “chilling”, mindlessly surfing random videos on Youtube or the internet or catching up on celebrity news. Or taking note of the lovely dinner Joan had with her husband and the photos she posted on Facebook. Or what some Instagram influencers have uploaded on their feed.
Imagine adding all of that time up together and you’d have hours of time of “being entertained” but which contribute nothing valuable or important to your life.
Is that honestly how you want to spend your time, your life?
Don’t get me wrong, doing any of the above once in awhile, especially when you’ve been working hard and chasing your goals for days, can feel abso-frickin-lutely amazing.
Just chilling on the couch and watching whatever it is you watch on Netflix after a day of doing all those cool things in your life can feel so satisfying and rewarding. It’s the taste of freedom and knowing you can watch 6 hours of Netflix because you’ve done what you needed to do move forward in life can feel incredibly powerful.
But you know what feels even more powerful?
Knowing that you have all that time to yourself – those precious minutes or 2 hours – knowing that you have all that free time and making the most of it in adding value to your life.
Taking that time to take a step towards your goals.
Taking those snatches of time, however short to go through your self-care rituals.
Grabbing that hour before you go to bed to learn Spanish, or sew, or play chess or whatever delicious thing you have on your fun bucket list.
Visualise that. The incredibly richness those experiences will add to you, your life?
Cause you know what? Those are the ways in which you will feel even more connected to yourself, where you are gonna go through those rich, hearty experiences and personal transformation and come out the other side a whole different new you.
Instead of wasting your time, why don’t we put those minutes and seconds to good use and make the most of our existence here on Earth?
Because, some #hardtruths for ya, but life ain’t that long babe. We are only here for a finite number of years, we don’t know how long we are gonna be here for and how much time we have left.
Most of us operate on the assumption that we will all live til at least 80. But supposed that we don’t?
It’s a morbid thought but it’s incredibly real. As real as the chair or whatever you are sitting on.
The form you have selected does not exist.
4 Tips to get that delicious personal connection + make each minute count
#1 Take something from your fun bucket list and working on one of them
Have you got a bucket list of fun things you like to do in your free time that will not only – advance your life in some way – but make you feel thoroughly fulfilled once you’ve indulged in them?
It helps to build a bucket list of such items. I have learning how to play chess, reading fiction, drawing, writing, learning Spanish, embroidery etc on my list. Anytime I have a spot of free-time, instead of turning on YouTube or lying on the couch flicking through my Netflix options, I take one item from this fun bucket list and get into it.
Not only is it an incredibly fun and rewarding, relaxing experience for your brain, but it allows you to pick up something new, to tap into your creative side.
To explore you deeper.
#2 Planning your days
This is the number #1 cure to distractions creeping in and ruining it for you. Many of us are planning-averse. Plans and schedules make us feel restricted, but they don’t have to be.
Plan your days with some flexibility. You don’t have to be deciding what exactly you are doing each half-hour. But having a sense of what activities you’d like accomplished and how long each one takes is more than enough. Shift things around if necessary.
This is part of designing your life and ensures that you are not then frittering your spare time away. Cause when our brains are not occupied, that’s when it gets restless/boredom and goes to the lowest-hanging fruit – the TV, scrolling social media out of boredom and entertaining unhelpful thoughts.
So make planning a familiar habit!
#3 Decide what is important and say no to the rest
When we want to be in the spirit of making the best use of our time, we gotta learn to say no to the things (and people) that sometimes do not serve us in the best way. This is how we create boundaries for ourselves, protect our time.
When you got something that you need done, or you just need a quiet night in to unwind with your self-care and reading, but your friends are trying to get you to that cool party in town, you just gotta say no.
Don’t be afraid to set some boundaries. There will be people who don’t understand that and that’s fine. But good friends do.
Start saying no to the things you want less of and say yes to more of what you want in life.
#4 What would you regret NOT doing 2, 3, 5 years down the road?
One major motivator for me is – what regrets do I NOT want to have on my deathbed?
If that is too morbid, thinking about what you’d regret not doing a couple of years down the road would usually do the trick. This usually helps to center your thinking and perspective.
Do you think you’d regret not spending more time on Instagram? Not spending time watching all those dramas that trended on Netflix in 2021? Or would you regret not taking up that course, not socialising more, not being more connected with your friends etc?
Life is short. How do you want to spend it?
Time is precious, love. You may think you have your whole life ahead of you, but when you start hitting those age milestones, 21, 25, 30…you realise how fast life is flying by and how much of it has flown by already.
So let’s not waste the precious time given to us and let’s make the most of our existence on this planet.