two new spreads for the next couple of weeks ⭐️
feeling SUPER positive today!! hope you are too 🌞
two new spreads for the next couple of weeks ⭐️
feeling SUPER positive today!! hope you are too 🌞
Hey! I have a break coming up too so I’ll list some things that I’ll be doing during the holiday and then some other random ideas:
Hope you have a fun, but productive, summer!! x
you’re going to be alright
“People grow when they are loved well. If you want to help others heal, love them without an agenda.”
– Mike McHargue (via onlinecounsellingcollege)
- break up your paragraphs. big paragraphs are scary, your readers will get scared
- fuuuuck epithets. “the other man got up” “the taller woman sat down” “the blonde walked away” nahhh. call them by their names or rework the sentence. you can do so much better than this (exception: if the reader doesn’t know the character(s) you’re referring to yet, it’s a-okay to refer to them by an identifying trait)
- blunette is not a thing
- new speaker, new paragraph. please.
- “said” is such a great word. use it. make sweet love to it. but don’t kill it
- use “said” more than you use synonyms for it. that way the use of synonyms gets more exciting. getting a sudden description of how a character is saying something (screaming, mumbling, sighing) is more interesting that way.
- if your summary says “I suck at summaries” or “story better than summary” you’re turning off the reader, my dude. your summary is supposed to be your hook. you gotta own it, just like you’re gonna own the story they’re about to read
- follow long sentences w short ones and short ones w long ones. same goes for paragraphs
- your writing is always better than you think it is. you just think it’s bad because the story’s always gonna be predicable to the one who’s writing it
- i love u guys keep on trucking
1. Seeing success as being determined by external factors. (So if I fail it’s circumstances or someone else’s fault.) This takes away my sense of power and keeps me stuck in failure and helplessness.
2. Personal blind spots. Sometimes we keep failing but we’re blind to the fact that there’s something we’re doing that is causing us to fail. That could be related to our communication style, our attitudes, lack of knowledge and ability, pursuing something that doesn’t suit our gifts and talents, and so on.
3. Self sabotage. Sometimes we don’t feel we deserve to succeed so unconsciously we do something that causes us to fail. This includes meditating on self-limiting thoughts (Eg, “I could never …; I don’t deserve …”).
4. Feeling ambivalent about the goals you’ve set. We often set a goal that is someone else’s goal so we’re not really sure if it’s what we want ourselves. That affects our motivation, and our will to succeed.
5. Fear of change. All successes bring some change – and that can feel quite threatening. And we’re often comfortable with our life as it is now – and so we wonder if success will really make us happier.
6. Pressure from others who don’t want you to succeed. It’s very common for our peers to be threatened by success, and we know they’ll be sarcastic or mean if we succeed. Hence, we don’t try our hardest as we recognise the cost will be social isolation, or rejection by our friends.
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hey! so i had an anon or two ask me about music for studying, and i was inspired to be extra as usual, and make a masterpost. If the authors of playlists are not stated, their urls
these recs by @prcserpina
flourishment and spatial by @areistotle
epic classical by @spotify
an intro to classical music by @violaboss
a mostly instrumental mp by @studyaim
classic rain by @mssyblr
keep it classycal
late morning studying
sit down and revise
wdym you dont like classical?
this mp by @littleant-studies
with two sugars, please
mostly indie by me
feel good indie rock by @spotify
peaceful indie ambient by @spotify
record shop by @filtr
ultimate indie by @spotify
so we drift
songs i never skip
this int’l mp by @passionatepolyglot
this french music mp by @studyplants
german music mp by @languagebean
je vole by @flowerylatin
this icelandic and french playlist
french studying playlist
multiple ways (portuguese and spanish)
la vita italiana
this super cute masterpost by @post–grad
in the hogwarts library
find beauty by me
panic attack by me
jolie by @studyplants (this was made for me and is adorable and the best gift i have ever ever ever received it is my favorite playlist pls listen)
late night reading by @spotify
something new (victuri!!)
pretty sad songs to make me feel happy
duvets and heartbeats;;
7 spotify playlists for focus~
study by @studyplants
deep focus by @spotify
superior study playlist by @areistotle
yours, vincent: a mix inspired by van gogh
a walk with virginia woolf
creativity boost by @spotify
focus by me
nonstop studying by highschoolering
my playlist on spotify
acoustic by @studyplants
ultimate singer songwriter by @filtr
winter acoustics by @spotify
the love letter you never sent
cuddles and studies
at night the city breathes
it was another planet
And so here it is, fam! I hope this helped you guys tune into your inner Hermione! (pun intended)
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Question: Hello Shelby!! You give such amazing advice to ppl! You know so much of stuff it’s amazing 😀 I was just wondering if you have any styling tips (for work clothing) for people who aren’t too tall and have short torsos? o.O I want to tuck in my shirts but always can’t cause it makes me look stumpy but leaving them out makes me look sloppy =/ Would be grateful for any advice! xo
Answer: Aww thank you!!
I suggest finding tops that accentuate your waist to give the illusion of a taller torso. Also adding a belt at your hips will give a slimming effect. I think wearing skirts that aren’t extremely long will help; a shorter skirt will show your legs more giving the illusion that you’re slightly taller. Throwing a cardigan or blazer over your outfit will give it a more defined look, but also hide some of the bulging top sticking out of a skirt (I hate this when the top is looser and the bottoms are tighter). Flowy tops with form fitting pants looks great too! A flowy skirt will hide some of the bulging blouse; there is more room for the blouse to lay underneath! Also wearing heels always helps, if you’re comfortable with them! Lastly, tops that are more form fitting will be easier to tuck in and won’t look as sloppy. Here are some examples:
My number one tip, however, would be to check out Mackenzie’s (@pinkandgreenlivingthedream) work outfits! She is slightly shorter than me and has the cutest work clothes I’ve ever seen and she pairs them in ways you wouldn’t have thought of!! I linked some below but if you go to her OOTD page there is tons more cute outfits! She also probably has more tips!
Hope this helped:)
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I’m assuming you are asking for girls clothing, because guys would just wear a shirt and pants for casual (and a tie depending on the situation), and a shirt, tie, and jacket for professional.
-Dress pants, khaki pants, black pants, anything that isn’t jeans
-Skirt that is an appropriate length (doesn’t have to be a pencil skirt, just make sure it isn’t too short)
-Could even possibly wear a casual dress in a neutral color (just depends what you are dressing for)
-Button up or blouse that does not have a super low neckline. You can also add a cardigan on top of it
-Closed toe shoes; flats (preferred), or 1-2 inch heels in a neutral color
-Minimal jewelry, well groomed, put together
-Don’t have to be dressed in completely neutral colors; for casual you can wear brighter colors on your top or cardigan (not like neon…but blue, red, green, patterns…)
-Dress pants or pencil skirt that hits your knees (must not ride up and show your thigh when you sit down)
-Button up shirt or high neck blouse with optional blazer
-Depending on the rules of attire at the interview/job/meeting you could wear a business dress; form fitting, reaches the knees or below, high neckline, covered shoulders
-Closed toed, 1-2 inch heels, neutral color (black or nude)
-Very minimal jewelry; perhaps a watch and a pearl necklace
-Neutral colors: navy, tan, grey, black, white (important)
-And of course, well groomed (clean makeup, brushed/styled hair, clean nails)
-You can wear muted accents of color such as red or blue, but I don’t recommend it for an interview or business meeting. At least until you know the style and regulations of where you are. I recommend searching Pinterest for outfit ideas!!
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I wouldn’t buy any new clothes specifically for your job until you know the dress code/have seen how other employees dress. Every job is different and defines professional and casual differently. Now, it is good to have 2-3 business professional outfits, and 2-3 business casual outfits for interviews or just in case, so you can’t go wrong with that. But don’t go out and spend hundreds on a new wardrobe for your new job before your first day. For work, my dad dresses casual and wears dress pants with a shirt everyday (without a tie). My mom dresses casual for work and wears jeans with nice tops. I also dress casual for work and wear athletic clothes/athleisure. However, here are some good guidelines to follow if you don’t know where to start.
Typically, worldwide, business casual and professional are very generic and similar (my mind is blanking on the correct word for this, but you know what I mean…it’s generally pretty similar and standard wherever you go). I would ask about the dress code at the interview (not flat out, but if the conversation goes in that direction), but if your job has a business casual dress code, and you show up on the first day in nice pants with a blouse, and everyone else is in jeans and blouses, you won’t look that out of place. It’s better to be overdressed than underdressed, especially if you want to make a good first impression.
Also, let me know if you need some interview tips/questions to ask afterwards/what employers are typically looking for.
Business casual outfits:
Business professional outfits:
Personally, at all of my business casual interviews I wore a blouse and skirt with flats/heels. It’s nice to be a bit dressed up to make a good first impression. However, I’ve had a few interviews at daycares and university office jobs where I wore jeans, flats, and a very nice blouse. It honestly depends where you’re interviewing/working at. For graduate school interviews I’ll show up in a full suit with a briefcase (that’s what girls wore when I helped interview the clinical doctoral applicants this year)!
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