Barriers to Success


1. Seeing success as being determined by external factors. (So if I fail it’s circumstances or someone else’s fault.) This takes away my sense of power and keeps me stuck in failure and helplessness.

2. Personal blind spots. Sometimes we keep failing but we’re blind to the fact that there’s something we’re doing that is causing us to fail. That could be related to our communication style, our attitudes, lack of knowledge and ability, pursuing something that doesn’t suit our gifts and talents, and so on.

3. Self sabotage. Sometimes we don’t feel we deserve to succeed so unconsciously we do something that causes us to fail. This includes meditating on self-limiting thoughts (Eg, “I could never …; I don’t deserve …”).

4. Feeling ambivalent about the goals you’ve set. We often set a goal that is someone else’s goal so we’re not really sure if it’s what we want ourselves. That affects our motivation, and our will to succeed.

5. Fear of change. All successes bring some change – and that can feel quite threatening. And we’re often comfortable with our life as it is now – and so we wonder if success will really make us happier.

6. Pressure from others who don’t want you to succeed. It’s very common for our peers to be threatened by success, and we know they’ll be sarcastic or mean if we succeed. Hence, we don’t try our hardest as we recognise the cost will be social isolation, or rejection by our friends.

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Music for Studying [Masterpost; Tumblr]


hey! so i had an anon or two ask me about music for studying, and i was inspired to be extra as usual, and make a masterpost. If the authors of playlists are not stated, their urls

these recs by @prcserpina
flourishment and spatial by @areistotle
everything classic
epic classical by @spotify
an intro to classical music by @violaboss
a mostly instrumental mp by @studyaim 
classic rain by @mssyblr
keep it classycal
late morning studying
sit down and revise
wdym you dont like classical?
this mp by @littleant-studies

with two sugars, please
mostly indie by me
feel good indie rock by @spotify
peaceful indie ambient by @spotify
record shop by @filtr
ultimate indie by @spotify
so we drift
songs i never skip
indie kids
essential indie

this int’l mp by @passionatepolyglot
this french music mp by @studyplants
german music mp by @languagebean
je vole by @flowerylatin
this icelandic and french playlist
french studying playlist
una palabra
multiple ways (portuguese and spanish)
la vita italiana

this super cute masterpost by  @post–grad
in the hogwarts library
find beauty by me
panic attack by me
jolie by @studyplants (this was made for me and is adorable and the best gift i have ever ever ever received it is my favorite playlist pls listen)
late night reading by @spotify
something new (victuri!!)
pretty sad songs to make me feel happy
fragmentary self
misty mornings;
duvets and heartbeats;;
endless immensity

7 spotify playlists for focus~
study by @studyplants
deep focus by @spotify
superior study playlist by @areistotle
yours, vincent: a mix inspired by van gogh
a walk with virginia woolf
creativity boost by @spotify
focus by me
nonstop studying by highschoolering
intense thoughts 
ambient focus

mynoise <3
terraform by @intellectus
this mp by @missveils

theory of everything
harry potter (all) (youtube: x) (spotify: x)
lord of the rings
yuri!!! on ice
game of thrones (szn 1-5)
pride and prejudice
downton abbey

my playlist on spotify
acoustic by @studyplants
ultimate singer songwriter by @filtr
winter acoustics by @spotify
rainy days
the love letter you never sent
cuddles and studies
at night the city breathes
tree lungs
it was another planet

learn japanese with me
anxiety advice

And so here it is, fam! I hope this helped you guys tune into your inner Hermione! (pun intended)


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Professional wardrobes for people with short torsos [Tumblr post]

Question: Hello Shelby!! You give such amazing advice to ppl! You know so much of stuff it’s amazing 😀 I was just wondering if you have any styling tips (for work clothing) for people who aren’t too tall and have short torsos? o.O I want to tuck in my shirts but always can’t cause it makes me look stumpy but leaving them out makes me look sloppy =/ Would be grateful for any advice! xo

Answer: Aww thank you!!

I suggest finding tops that accentuate your waist to give the illusion of a taller torso. Also adding a belt at your hips will give a slimming effect. I think wearing skirts that aren’t extremely long will help; a shorter skirt will show your legs more giving the illusion that you’re slightly taller. Throwing a cardigan or blazer over your outfit will give it a more defined look, but also hide some of the bulging top sticking out of a skirt (I hate this when the top is looser and the bottoms are tighter). Flowy tops with form fitting pants looks great too! A flowy skirt will hide some of the bulging blouse; there is more room for the blouse to lay underneath! Also wearing heels always helps, if you’re comfortable with them! Lastly, tops that are more form fitting will be easier to tuck in and won’t look as sloppy. Here are some examples:

My number one tip, however, would be to check out Mackenzie’s (@pinkandgreenlivingthedream) work outfits! She is slightly shorter than me and has the cutest work clothes I’ve ever seen and she pairs them in ways you wouldn’t have thought of!! I linked some below but if you go to her OOTD page there is tons more cute outfits! She also probably has more tips!

Hope this helped:)
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Difference between business casual and business professional [Tumblr post]

I’m assuming you are asking for girls clothing, because guys would just wear a shirt and pants for casual (and a tie depending on the situation), and a shirt, tie, and jacket for professional.

Business Casual:

-Dress pants, khaki pants, black pants, anything that isn’t jeans

-Skirt that is an appropriate length (doesn’t have to be a pencil skirt, just make sure it isn’t too short)

-Could even possibly wear a casual dress in a neutral color (just depends what you are dressing for)

-Button up or blouse that does not have a super low neckline. You can also add a cardigan on top of it

-Closed toe shoes; flats (preferred), or 1-2 inch heels in a neutral color

-Minimal jewelry, well groomed, put together

-Don’t have to be dressed in completely neutral colors; for casual you can wear brighter colors on your top or cardigan (not like neon…but blue, red, green, patterns…)

Business Professional:

-Dress pants or pencil skirt that hits your knees (must not ride up and show your thigh when you sit down)

-Button up shirt or high neck blouse with optional blazer

-Depending on the rules of attire at the interview/job/meeting you could wear a business dress; form fitting, reaches the knees or below, high neckline, covered shoulders

-Closed toed, 1-2 inch heels, neutral color (black or nude)

-Very minimal jewelry; perhaps a watch and a pearl necklace

-Neutral colors: navy, tan, grey, black, white (important)

-And of course, well groomed (clean makeup, brushed/styled hair, clean nails)

-You can wear muted accents of color such as red or blue, but I don’t recommend it for an interview or business meeting. At least until you know the style and regulations of where you are. I recommend searching Pinterest for outfit ideas!!
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Interview outfit tips: Business Professional vs Business Casual [Tumblr post]

I wouldn’t buy any new clothes specifically for your job until you know the dress code/have seen how other employees dress. Every job is different and defines professional and casual differently. Now, it is good to have 2-3 business professional outfits, and 2-3 business casual outfits for interviews or just in case, so you can’t go wrong with that. But don’t go out and spend hundreds on a new wardrobe for your new job before your first day.  For work, my dad dresses casual and wears dress pants with a shirt everyday (without a tie). My mom dresses casual for work and wears jeans with nice tops. I also dress casual for work and wear athletic clothes/athleisure. However, here are some good guidelines to follow if you don’t know where to start.

Typically, worldwide, business casual and professional are very generic and similar (my mind is blanking on the correct word for this, but you know what I mean…it’s generally pretty similar and standard wherever you go). I would ask about the dress code at the interview (not flat out, but if the conversation goes in that direction), but if your job has a business casual dress code, and you show up on the first day in nice pants with a blouse, and everyone else is in jeans and blouses, you won’t look that out of place. It’s better to be overdressed than underdressed, especially if you want to make a good first impression.

Also, let me know if you need some interview tips/questions to ask afterwards/what employers are typically looking for.

Business casual: 

  • Dress pants or khaki pants; they can hit at the ankle or all the way down
  • Skirt that hits just above the knee
  • Casual blouse
  • Sweater, or jacket
  • Flats or 1-2 inch heels
  • No open toed shoes
  • For this you may wear brighter colors. Not neon or hot pink/bright yellow, but shades of blue, green, red, pastels, or muted-bright colors
  • May wear a casual dress that is more flowy
  • May wear boots or booties; not at the job interview! But when you actually get the job and know the dress code. Nowadays most jobs have a casual dress code, or at least ‘casual Friday’s’

Business Professional:

  • Neutral colors only
  • Full length dress pants; not cropped
  • Blouse; white or light blue is preferred; make sure it’s buttoned all the way up
  • Knee length skirt with tights or panty hose
  • 1-2 inch heels
  • Blazer or suit jacket
  • Can wear form fitting dress that reaches the knee

Business casual outfits:






Business professional outfits: 






Personally, at all of my business casual interviews I  wore a blouse and skirt with flats/heels. It’s nice to be a bit dressed up to make a good first impression. However, I’ve had a few interviews at daycares and university office jobs where I wore jeans, flats, and a very nice blouse. It honestly depends where you’re interviewing/working at. For graduate school interviews I’ll show up in a full suit with a briefcase (that’s what girls wore when I helped interview the clinical doctoral applicants this year)!
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6 Simple Pricing Hacks to make Money as a Writer

6 Simple Pricing Hacks to make Money as a Writer

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WAYS TO STUDY – Studying with a busy schedule

WAYS TO STUDY – Study tips, Blog , Vlog, Articles, And more…:

    1. The first thing you are going to need is a good planning. As you cannot afford to lose any precious time it is important to use the time you have. Make a list of all the important things you need to do and try to fit in as much as possible.


    1. Don’t plan too much. If you know you don’t have 5 hours to study but you plan in things that will cost you 5 hours, you won’t finish your to do list and you will feel even more stressed because you couldn’t do all the things you wanted to do. Be realistic and honest when you are making a planning.


    1. Get up as early as possible to do the things you want to do. I think mornings are amazing to get work done because it is so quiet and nobody expects anything from you everyone else is asleep. There aren’t a lot of people on social media and if you live in a house with multiple people like I do it will be great to have a few hours of quietness in the house. While the whole world is sleeping, you are chasing your dreams.


    1. Try to multitask. If you have to sit in the bus for an hour to get home, use that hour to your advantage and study/revise something. Especially if you have to do other things first when you get home like cooking or playing sports. I personally like to write articles in the train or edit pictures or new videos.


  1. If you have classes where you barely learn something, do something else instead. Not every teacher will allow this but in my university the professor won’t even notice if I am summarizing his/her subject during the lectures. I mean, you spend 4-9 hours at school every day so make sure you are doing something there that is worth your time.
  2. Try to do as much as possible on days where you don’t have to do a lot. If you for example don’t have a lot of time to work on weekdays, try to finish all your homework in your weekends so you don’t have to do a lot on school days. You can also prep exams/tests by making summaries in your weekend so you only have to study a little bit on weekdays.

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You’re distracted more often than you think – A Life of Productivity

You’re distracted more often than you think – A Life of Productivity:


The average person is distracted or interrupted every 40 seconds when working in front of a computer. This is remarkable. While it’s easy to recognize that we live in an age of distraction, to me, this number is astounding. It’s pretty hard to do good, deep work when you can’t even focus for a minute.



In the timeline of our work, our best thinking happens after this 40 second mark.

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Suzy Welch: 4 signs you should quit your job immediately

Suzy Welch: 4 signs you should quit your job immediately

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Popular apps perfect for students


Staying on top of all your to-dos, errands, tasks and due dates can get complicated but luckily there is an app for everything! If you’re looking for app to wake you up in a morning, manage your priorities or soothe your anxiety, you’ve come to the right place. Here is a list of all the top apps that students are using:



Note taking


Mental health and self care

Health and fitness


Hope this helps! x

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