Think about all the things you have been passionate about in your life. Think about all those passions that you considered making a career out of or building a company around. How many were/are there ? Why did you bounce from one to another ? Why were you not able to make a career or business out of any of those passions ? Or if you have been able to have some success, what was the key to the success.? Was it the passion or the effort you put in to your job or company ?
If you really want to know where you destiny lies, look at where you apply your time.
Time is the most valuable asset you don’t own. You may or may not realize it yet, but how you use or don’t use your time is going to be the best indication of where your future is going to take you .
Let me make this as clear as possible
1. When you work hard at something you become good at it.
2. When you become good at doing something, you will enjoy it more.
3. When you enjoy doing something, there is a very good chance you will become passionate or more passionate about it
4. When you are good at something, passionate and work even harder to excel and be the best at it, good things happen.
Don’t follow your passions, follow your effort. It will lead you to your passions and to success, however you define it.
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And thus another life lesson materialized, with applications to Mustachianism as well. And that lesson is that small efforts, repeated over time, will almost always surprise you.
It’s a natural weakness of the human brain that we don’t recognize this, because we have our leftover instincts of survival in the moment. But a ten dollar lunch each workday compounds to $37,600 every ten years. An extra beer or slice of bread beyond your base calorie requirements adds up to 152 pounds of fat* over the same period. A habit of being just a bit rude to your spouse in certain situations can brew itself into lifelong resentment and divorce, while a slightly different habit of patience and respect can keep you happily married for life.
For me, the habit of occasionally typing some shit into the computer has resulted in an enormous pile of articles on this blog. 360 of them, or over 1000 pages if you were to make it all into a (repetitive and poorly edited) book. It’s a whole empire now, which automatically brings in readers and generates surprising quantities of money, and all caused by a series of individually insignificant efforts over time. And although things seem slow to me right now, with continued efforts I can surely make this place far better, finish the book that really needs to be written, and reach the right people. Then, of course, we can save the human race from destroying itself through overconsumption of its own habitat, which has been the plan all along.
So how can everyone benefit from this effect? By watching where your time goes, and making small adjustments to make sure most of those minutes are aligned with your real life goals.
Watching TV, for example, or playing massively multiplayer online games, can feel relaxing and even stimulating at times. But those hours spent relaxing and stimulating yourself can really add up, and when you tally the eventual sum of the life benefits, it ends up awfully close to zero. Many other leisure pursuits (complaining, ATV riding, shopping) often end up the same way.
The key is therefore to trick yourself into doing more things that are good for you. Not just more good things, but over time having your life be almost entirely good things.
Tiny things, like learning one new thing you were afraid of trying before. Fixing the screen on your upstairs window. Or taking a very short walk when you don’t really have the time or inclination to go for a real walk. Reading just a tiny amount of the investing book before you eat a tiny amount of raw vegetables. I have some gymnastics rings hanging from straps mounted to part of the high ceiling in my kitchen. When I don’t feel like really working out, which is quite often, I will walk over and do just 5 pull-ups on those rings. Over the past month or two, I’ve done this lazy cop-out routine about 100 times, which adds to 500 pull-ups, which is not such a bad thing after all.
Sooner than you think, you’ll find that your days are starting to change shape. These constant needlings from Mr. Money Mustache seemed annoying at first, but you will end up getting rid of your TV and replacing it with a library card after all, and poking around in the Reading List area of this blog. Over time, you’ll become a Self Improvement Machine, a miniature Dalai Lama with happiness beams shooting out of each of your orifices, which in turn shine onto others and make them happier. All in all, a surprising effect for such a small effort.
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My first tip is to turn off your phone when you are working. Another thing you can do is turn on plane mode on your phone. That way, you can easily get access to your social media during a study break, without having to turn your device off and on the whole time.
Another thing you can do when your friends/loved one keeps messaging you when you should be studying is just tell them that you need to work on school and that you will speak to them in a couple of hours. If they care about you, they know your education is important for your future and give you the space to work. You know you won’t get any messages during those hours so you can’t get distracted by your phone.
This is going to sound very childish but if you have no self control at all, ask someone (a parent or sibling or roommate) to hide your phone until you are done with doing your school work. It can be a little bit hard sometimes but you’ll notice that there aren’t a lot of excuses you can use to get your phone back before you are finished.
Let’s take a look at this from another perspective: why are we so addicted to social media ? Our brains get a positive (prikkel) every time we get a like or a message. It simply gives us a good feeling without having to work hard for it. However, do you feel happy at the end of the day when you know you spent your whole day on social media scrolling through Facebook and Instagram, knowing that there’s nothing new going on? I don’t. (Sterker nog), I feel guilty because I wasted my day with something that doesn’t make me happy. What does make me happy? Going to bed knowing I did everything I could, knowing that my day was productive and knowing I am one step closer to my goal. In other words, I have to get things done (school, exercise, take care of myself) to get a happy feeling at the end of the day. Think about this the next time you are tempted to grab your phone when you are studying.
One thing that I like to keep in mind during studying is “if it’s that important, they’ll call me”. I turn off my wifi and internet so I don’t have any access to social media but if people need to tell something important they can by calling me. Now I do have to say, I never get called by people which means that whatever is going on on social media, whatever someone texts me is not that important.
**My last tip is to go to social media and look at the things that are posted in a critical way. What do you see? Someone posting something funny, an article from a magazine, a selfie, a picture of someone’s kid, photos of someone’s amazing party. Now ask yourself? Are you really interested in these things? Does this make you happy? And most importantly, is this worth your time? Because of this I stopped using Facebook and my personal Twitter and Instagram, simply because they didn’t add anything to my life, they didn’t make my happy and I felt like I was scrolling through the same kind of posts/photos every day.
My last tip for you is to delete apps you can live without on your phone and only check them on another device. Now I do have to say, this only works when you are not addicted to that other device. For me that is my laptop. I don’t feel any need to turn on my laptop to check social media, which is the reason why I deleted my Facebook from my phone and now I only check it on my laptop (which is, in case you were wondering, less than once a week).